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Most of us are taught to pay attention to what is said—the words. Words do provide us with some information, but meanings are derived from so many other sources that it would hinder our effectiveness as a partner to a relationship to rely too heavily on words alone. Words are used to describe only a small part of the many ideas we associate with any given message. Sometimes we can gain insight into some of those associations if we listen for more than words. We don’t always say what we mean or mean what we say. Sometimes our words don’t mean anything except “ I’m letting off some steam. I don’t really want you to pay close attention to what I’m saying. Just pay attention to what I’m feeling.”
Mostly we mean several things at once. A person wanting to purchase a house says to the current owner, “This step has to be fixed before I’ll buy.” The owner says, “ It’s been like that for years.” Actually, the step hasn’t been like that for years, but the unspoken message is: “ I don’t want to fix it. We put up with it. Why can’t you?” The search for a more expansive view of meaning can be developed of examining a message in terms of who said it, when it occurred, the
related conditions or situation, and how it was said.
When a message occurs can also reveal associated meaning. Let us assume two couples do exactly the same amount of kissing and arguing. But one couple always kisses after an argument and the other couple always argues after a kiss. The ordering of the behaviors may mean a great deal more than the frequency of the behavior. A friend’s unusually docile behavior may only be understood by noting that it was preceded by situations that required an abnormal amount of assertiveness. Some responses may be directly linked to a developing pattern of responses and defy logic. For example, a person who says “No!” to a serials of charges like “You’re dumb,” “You’re lazy,” and “You’re dishonest,” may also say
“No!” and try to justify his or her response if the next statement is “And
you’re good looking.”
We would do well to listen for how messages are presented. The words, “If sure has been nice to have you over,” can be said with emphasis and excitement or ritualistically. The phrase can be said once or repeated several times. And the meanings we associate with the phrase will change accordingly. Sometimes if we say something infrequently it assumes more importance; sometimes the more we say something the less importance it assumes.
1.Effective communication is rendered possible between two conversing
partners, if ___.
A.they use proper words to carry their ideas.
B.they both speak truly of their own feelings.
C.they try to understand each other’s ideas beyond words.
D.they are capable of associating meaning with their words.
2.“I’m letting off some steam” in paragraph 1 means___.
A.I’m just calling your attention.
B.I’m just kidding.
C.I’m just saying the opposite.
D.I’m just giving off some sound.
3.The house-owner’s example shows that he actually means___.
A.the step has been like that for years.
B.he doesn’t think it necessary to fix the step.
C.the condition of the step is only a minor fault.
D.the cost involved in the fixing should be shared.
4.Some responses and behaviors may appear very illogical, but are justifiable
if___.
A.linked to an abnormal amount of assertiveness.
B.seen as one’s habitual pattern of behavior.
C.taken as part of an ordering sequence.
D.expressed to a series of charges.
5.The word “ritualistically” in the last paragraph equals something
done___.
A.without true intention.
B.light-heartedly.
C.in a way of ceremony.
D.with less emphasis.
Part III Cloze
Directions: There are twenty blanks in the following passage. For each blank
there are four choices. Choose the one that best fits into the passage and then
marks your answer on the Answer Sheet.
In 1982, Mark Thatcher, the son of Mrs. Thatcher was reported 61 in the
Sahara Desert while competing in the Grand Prix motor race from Paris to Dakar.
This sad news, so 62 , shook the usually calm and unperturbed seasoned
politician 63 her balance. Though she did her best to pretend as if 64 had
happened and made her public appearances as usual, people could not 65 to notice
that she was no longer the old 66 prime minister who always had everything 67
control. 68 she had become a very sad mother who was unable to recover from her
shock.
One day, when she was to speak at a luncheon party, a reporter caught her 69
her guard by 70 up the subject of her missing son again. She was totally
mentally 71 for the question and lost her self control. Tears were rolling down
her eyes as she sobbingly told the reporter that there 72 still no news of Mark
and that she was very worried about him. She said that all the countries 73 had
promised to do their best to help her find her son. 74 that she broke down
completely and sobbed silently for quite a while. Gradually she 75 down and
started to speak as 76. it was a very moving scene which 77 a new side of Mrs.
Thatcher’s character the public do not usually see, 78 people began to talk
about the Iron Woman’s maternal love, a sentiment that is 79 to all human
kind.
Later Mark returned 80 and sound to his mother’s side, good-humored and all
smiles as usual, as if nothing unusual had ever happened. The Iron Woman,
however, broke down again as was sobbing for the second time.
61. A. missing B. missed C. wanting D. wanted
62. A. expected B. expecting C. unexpected D. unexpecting
63. A. with B. on C. out D. off
64. A. something B. anything C. nothing D. everything
65. A. miss B. fail C. pretend D. expect
66. A. reassured B. self-assured C. assuring D. self-assuring
67. A. for B. beneath C. below D. under
68. A. Instead B. however C. Therefore D. So
69. A. into B. out of C. on D. off
70. A. putting B. bringing C. taking D. giving
71. A. ready B. prepared C. unprepared D. unexpected
72. A. was B. were C. should be D. would be
73. A. concerning B. concerned C. worrying D. worried
74. A. At B. Before C. After D. With
75. A. sat B. broke C. calmed D. became
76. A. planned B. planning C. plans D. a plan
77. A. explained B. exposed C. excluded D. exclaimed
78. A. however B. instead C. so D. but
79. A. universal B. unique C. single D. strange
80. A. safe B. safely C. sight D. hearing
